Leaving a Marriage

Video Transcript

"I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources. Today, we're going to be talking about making a getaway, for your survival, specifically speaking about how to leave your marriage. Now, generally speaking, leaving a marriage implies that something has happened, where you don't want to go through the plan of the divorce, you need to make an exit or a separation, in a more rapid fashion. Now, if you haven't had counseling, or sat down, and tried to work out a plan together, then that's probably the first thing that you want to do. Seek professional advice, therapy, counseling, attending workshops, to understand really what happened, to break down in the relationship, and even if you have children, this becomes so much more important, that you seek the counseling, and get attention to rebuilding, if you can, for the sake of the family, but if you've given this decision the right amount of weight, and consideration, then it's really time to execute a plan. Now, this leaving, really kind of implies that the relationship is not on good terms, and that there's some things, that really may be unsalvageable, that can't be addressed or improved, so basically, now it's a fight for your survival, and so how do you prepare for the separation, and for the journey? Where are you going to go? How are you going to get there? Where are you going to stay? and how are you going to sustain yourself? Consider it almost like a household move. You're going to need some things to sustain yourself. You're going to need some household comforts. You're going to need to get transportation,to take you wherever you need to be, and you need sustenance, in a long term and short term. Now, friends and family can help you out in the short term, but longer term, you're going to need to address employment, and how you're going to take care of yourself, and perhaps, your children, once you're in that separate destination, so again, support from friends and family is key, and it's important to get back into a routine, as quickly as you can. You've got to put this thing behind you, and focus on positive things, rebuilding. Again, support groups, counselors, and workshops are available. Look at what community resources are available, to help you out, and that''s how we make success, of leaving a marriage. I'm Joe Cuenco, Relationships For Life."