Negative Relationships Caused by Men
Men can create negative relationships because of several reasons. Some men might be too immature and controlling for relationships, and others might be too insecure and not empathetic enough. No matter what the root cause, these men tend to make their relationships toxic through a number of different actions.
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Manipulating
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Some negative relationships are caused by men's manipulative behavior, using emotional blackmail, backhanded compliments and guilt to make their wives or girlfriends feel like the man they are with is the only man who will ever accept them. These are negative relationships because the woman has no control; she is at the mercy of the man's machinations, and, unless she stands up to him, she finds herself with low self-esteem and a general malaise that comes from a lack of control in her own life.
Family Involvement
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Some men have their families --- particularly their mothers --- overly involved in their lives. This puts pressure on their romantic relationships for a variety of reasons. For one, a relationship is between two people. If a boyfriend's mother is constantly getting involved, the two-person dynamic is being spread too thin between three people. More important, though, it shows a certain immaturity. A boyfriend should be an adult if a woman wants to have a positive relationship with him, and adults do not run their decisions by their mothers.
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Cheating
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Cheating is not exclusive to men, but it's another way men create negative relationships. It is allowing a third person into what should be an intimate connection between two people. It also shows a lack of self-control, which in turn indicates a lack of maturity.
Fear of Intimacy
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Men often have a very real fear of intimacy. Although they are happy to have a girlfriend, they are not happy to show weakness by opening up to her and telling her guarded truths, such as what they fear, what their goals are and what their insecurities are. These relationships are negative because they seem happy from the outside, but the women in them feel like they are not getting as close as they deserve to the man they are dating.
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