How to Learn to Trust a Wife Who Has Cheated on You

Infidelity can cause tremendous problems in a marriage.

Love, trust and self-confidence can feel shaken when a partner cheats. It takes hard work and dedication from both parties in order to continue in the relationship. The goal is to of course learn to trust your wife again after she has violated your trust. It might not happen immediately, but you can rebuild your relationship after an affair.

Instructions

1. Give it time. Learning to trust your wife is not going to happen overnight. Make sure it is what you truly want, and take it one day at a time. Be committed to the process and to the relationship. Do it because you feel it is right for you, not for anyone else. No one will benefit if you attempt to do this for the wrong reasons.

2. Talk to your wife and set the ground rules for remaining in the relationship. Let her know how you feel and that it will take time for you to trust her again.

3. Find a therapist. You must be willing to go to counseling with your wife to work on changes in the relationship. There is no such thing as a one-sided problem.

4. Own up to your share of the problems that caused the affair. Even though she had the affair, talk to her and ask why she did it. It may give you insight into what needs to be changed in the relationship to make it more successful.

Tips & Warnings

• If a child was conceived from the infidelity, discuss how this matter will be dealt with. If you decide to keep this child, you will have to understand she will have a relationship with this other person for the rest of this child's life.

References

• Dr. Phil.com: Moving Forward after Infidelity
• Cheat Catcher: Can I Trust My Cheating Partner Ever Again? Or Forgive Them?

Resources

• Read this Article in Spanish