Things You'll Need:
- computer
- internet access
- at least 40 wpm
- awesome pictures of yourself (3)
- patience...lots of it!
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Step 1
You need to take 3 pictures of yourself where you look nice and happy, please dont cut pictures where you were holding an ex or partying in the dance club, they will make you look easy, also dont wear very sophisticated, so sexy, or showing too much skin, man are very simple so just be yourself (but please dont wear your pajamas or your rolling stone t-shirt!!!)
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Step 2
Search first on free online dating services before going to private services, first write down in a paper what kind of man are you looking for:nice,caring, with life goals, blonde, blue eyes or whatever you think its your prince charming, then look at the mirror an get back to earth, you are also not that perfect woman so dont try to find mr perfect cuz you will spend years searching (of course you are not going to date any guy that tells you that his wife doesnt understands him---so dont start with your left feet on complicated relationships, they will never leave their wives, i can promise you that!!!)
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Step 3
Dont tell your coworkers that you are looking for a boyfriend online, and dont give them your profile, so this way if dating doesnt succeed at least you wont see their face at work day after day.
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Step 4
Set up a time for "chatting online" just 2 hours, no more than that, you will become chataholic and you will have no life, dont let people think that you have no life or other priorities other than looking for a boyfriend
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Step 5
Wait 2 weeks to send your pictures, men tends to be very visual, if they dont like the picture they wont write you even if you are the most wonderful woman in the world, so start becoming a friend, and tell them your computer's cd is not working so you can upload pics, also dont tell them where you work, your tortured past life, your ex who is still after you, the kind of "weirds" you chat online, your phone number, address or any other personal things, after all you never know who is in the other side.
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Step 6
Meet the person after 3 months of chatting and exchanging pictures, meet in a coffee shop or museum in a day time, so if you dont like the person you are not commited to spend the whole night in a bar. Also never go to the movies the first time, its ridiculous because you are suppose to meet and talk no to watch spiderman fighting mr bad!!!
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Step 7
Be very careful with their profiles and stories, its like reading the small print in the contract:be aware of the following: "im looking for a friends with benefits", "you been married before so do you really want to get married again? think twice", "im a profesional man, 32 years old, with awesome car who wants to enjoy life, no kids and drama please (he wont marry cuz he is looking for his family to choose their wive or mail order bride), "im in iraq, im single, and planning to come back to states in 6 months" (he is married and chating with lots of girls) and the last one and worst "ill call you when i feel lonely, bored and i dont care if you have feelings for me, im not willing to spend time with you going to movies, and acting like a boyfriend because my social circle is exclusive"
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Step 8
After the 1st meeting, dont ask for 2nd meeting, let the guy take a deep breath and call you to go out, but wait for a week, so he will notice that you are a very very busy person and you have a life.
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Step 9
Well, now you guys are dating, thats cool! due that you decided to find someone in you area (which is more convenient) that a guy in Timbuctu or Wonderland, who will scam you with wire transfers or risky business online. So well, location is always very very important!!!
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Step 10
If you dont like to speak spanish, german or talk about politics, try to find someone who likes the same things like you, but well sometimes opposites attracts so anything is possible!!!
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Step 11
Wait for at least six months,try to argue with him, know his other side, when he is mad, sad, happy and drunk, after all you are looking for a husband to spend the rest of your life with, so please stay away from alcoholics, violents, drugadicts or liars, confront them and explain them your reason, your time is precious so spend it with people who is willing to live his life with you.
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Step 12
Last step and the hardest fool proof:"DONT MOVE WITH HIM WITHOUT GETTING MARRIED FIRST", no matter what dont do it, once you move without getting married he will not marry in the future, its very rare the man who really does it, dont listen to things like"lets try first then we will see", you will be his "acting wife, nurse, lover, belly dancer, dishwasher, cooker and when he gets bored of you he will just move with someone better" and you will feel used and abused, so i know its hard, but stick to yourself and your rules, say:i love you, but im looking for a husband not a forever boyfriend", mostly if you have kids what are you going to tell them:here is my boyfriend!!!, how will you introduce him to your family and friends: he is my boyfriend, he says he loves me but he doesnt wants to committ. He might not be perfect at the begging but when a man takes the next step and marries you, its because he is in love and willing to share his life with you.
