How to Set Boundaries With Parents

Your parents are two of the most important folks you'll ever know. Not only did they bring you into the world, raise and support you throughout the various stages of your life, but they have also been a source of great wisdom. However, if you're like many individuals, you may have a tendency to forget all of that. Do you have controlling parents that constantly get on your case, belittle or correct your behavior? If so, read more to learn how you can set boundaries, gain freedom and protect your privacy from meddling parents.

Things You'll Need

• Pushy or controlling parents
• Patience
• Empathy
• Creativity
• The help of friends and family
• Tact

Instructions

How to Set Boundaries With Parents

1. Physically separate yourself from your parents. If you live next-door to your parents, consider moving to the other side of town. If you live in your parents' house, consider renting an apartment or buying your own home.

2. Limit calls and visits. For example, if your mother asks you to call every day, politely explain that you are only able to call three times a week. Or, if your father demands weekly visits, kindly explain that you are only able to visit every other weekend.

3. Explain to your parents that while you appreciate their concern and advice, you must experience life's curves for yourself. Emphasize the need to make mistakes to grow as an individual.

4. Set boundaries on the amount of time your parents can spend at your home or apartment. Warn your mother against dropping by unannounced with cookies, casseroles or other treats. Kingly thank her for the gesture and remind her that such behavior is unacceptable.

5. Involve your siblings. Many parents are unaware of their pushy or controlling behavior. Ask a brother or sister to join the talk. If you both express concern, your parents may be more likely to listen.

Tips & Warnings

• Always make your feelings known.

• Never raise your voice or lose your temper with your parents.