How to Forgive an Unfaithful Wife
Discovering that your wife has been unfaithful can leave you feeling hopeless and thinking divorce is the only option. If you take some steps to forgive her and work through your marriage, you could find yourself happier than you've ever imagined.
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Consider marriage counseling. Chances are there was lack of communication in the marriage that may have contributed to the affair. Counseling can help teach necessary skills on how to talk to each other effectively. Alternatives to counseling with a professional include personalized advice online through questionnaires.
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Make lists. Both partners should write down negative and positive behaviors and changes that each would like to see in the other. This activity should be done over a period of days so a great deal of thought is put into it.
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Find out the reason your wife was unfaithful. Do this without blame. Discuss what current problems in your marriage that may have contributed.
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Reassure yourself so that you can forgive. Allow her to convince you that the affair is ended, and she will let you know where she is at all times. This reassurance will allow trust to be rebuilt over a period of time.
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Figure out how you both can reconnect. Discuss how you can make your marriage better than its ever been, both emotionally and romantically. Try to think of alternative ways of doing things that you were not happy with before.
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Read and talk. Gather books and read online about infidelity and forgiveness. Many marriages have survived an affair and reading about other couples' success stories can offer guidance.
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Talk to your close friends and family about your wife and her being unfaithful. You may be amazed at how much encouragement they will offer you. Make sure that they will support your choice to forgive her.
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Tips & Warnings
Any type of expert help will be a positive step in healing.
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You don't hurt someone you love...not like that. It's not about forgiving. It's about being an honest person to yourself. The relationship is a sham, a farce to continue to tell a partner you love them knowing that you are/were capable of inflicting more pain than he/she has ever experienced and will always feel untill they die. Forgiveness is a moot point.
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traveledthatway
Mar 13, 2009
Part 2:forgiveness is a re humanizing experience which will pay great dividends for the man who makes the conscious decision to seize it. -
traveledthatway
Mar 13, 2009
Part 2:forgiveness is a re humanizing experience which will pay great dividends for the man who makes the conscious decision to seize it.
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traveledthatway
Mar 13, 2009
Good advice but forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. Forgiveness does not mean that the cheating wife won't face any consequences for her actions including the dissolution of her marriage. Forgiveness is not amnesty.But even in the face of divorce, a resolute decision to forgive a soon-to-be-ex-wife, is essential for the benefit of letting go of the anger and bitterness that can linger long after both individuals part ways.Reconciliation should be based on a realistic assessment of the willingness on both spouses to do the hard work that is needed to transcend the wife's infidelity. A husband alone cannot save or rebuild his marriage if his wife is not enthusiastically willing to do everything in her power to regain his trust.But no matter what the outcome of the marriage, forgiveness is a re humanizing experience which will pay great dividends for the man who makes t
