How to Talk to a Suicidal Friend

If you suspect a friend has suicidal depression, the first reaction might be panic. Her turbulent emotions may make you feel small and helpless. Of course, it is necessary that you get help as soon as possible and make sure that she doesn't have access to sharp objects and poisonous substances. But then, you also must address her feeling of isolation. Here are some tips for talking to a suicidal friend.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

1. Take the problem seriously. Seventy-five percent of people who commit suicide hint that they plan to do so. Often, he might hint at "going away," or start giving away his possessions. Other signs of suicidal depression include crying uncontrollably over small incidents and withdrawing from normal activities.
2. Make yourself available to your friend. Suicidally depressed people feel that they are cut off from the world, without the support system they need to continue through life. Therefore, just sitting down and initiating a conversation can help enormously.
3. Employ active listening techniques. Show your concern by nodding and making eye contact. Active listening is not just about going through the motions, it is a state of mind in which you allow yourself to hear what your friend is telling you with a calm and open mind.
4. Validate your friend's concerns. Even if the problems may not seem big to you, they are very real to her. Show compassion for the pain she is experiencing. Tell her how much you care. Reinforcing the connection you share with each other is the first step to preventing her suicide.
5. Remain calm, even if your friend reveals feelings that shock you. Though you might be sad and confused, try to put aside these feelings and focus on what you can do to help. By keeping a cool head, you are a source of strength.
6. Ask her if he has plans to commit suicide. The more thought-out and realistic his ideas are, the more concerned you should be. If you are scared, don't leave his side. Call a suicide prevention hot line or 911.

Tips & Warnings

• Avoid using platitudes like, "We all go through tough times" or "Things will get better if you just give it time." Though you might be right, statements like these are not going to help. Respond to your friend like the individual he is.
• Don't start talking about your own problems. When dealing with your friend's suicidal depression, your own issues can wait.
• Don't let your friend swear you to secrecy. In fact, it is necessary that you contact help as quickly as possible. Tell her this and do not react to any ensuing anger.