How to Plan a Vacation Separate From Your Spouse

Separate vacations? Isn't that a prelude to divorce? Actually, many
therapists say it's an indicator of a long and happy marriage. When
you see each other every day, you may fail to see each other at all.
Separate vacations help you become your own person again--the
one your spouse fell in love with.

Difficulty:

Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Talk to your spouse. A separate vacation is fine, but unless you're aiming for a divorce, it should be a joint decision. If your spouse is adamantly opposed to a night-clubbing weekend with your mostly single friends, don't push it. You both need to be on safe ground to make this getaway an enjoyable one.

2. Travel with a friend. Rediscover what it's like to be one of the girls or guys instead of someone's husband or wife.

3. Take this opportunity to go somewhere your spouse would never go. Revisit long-held dreams and take a walk on the wild side. Read 442 Book an Adventure Vacation.

4. Indulge yourself. Eat and drink what you want when you want.

Tips & Warnings

• If childcare is a problem, consider taking turns: One parent takes care of the kids while the other parent vacations; then you switch.

• Call each other. It doesn't have to be every day, but keep the connection alive. You'll both be happier for it.

• Don't do anything to jeopardize your spouse's faith in you.