How to Get a Boyfriend Back With a Text

Text messages are not always the most effective form of romantic interaction.

Mending relationships should normally happen in person. A large percentage of human communication is non-verbal, and that communication is lost through email or text message. However, if your boyfriend is far away or there are other extenuating circumstances, you might not have the luxury of a face-to-face conversation or a phone call. If you're trying to get your boyfriend back and text is your only option for communication, you should be as open and honest as possible.

Instructions

1. Apologize for any wrongdoing that lead to the argument or breakup. Text messages don't allow the luxury of vocal inflection so you should be as direct and straightforward as possible so there is no misunderstanding of how you feel or your intentions. A simple "I'm sorry" will get your message across using text messaging's limited capabilities.

2. Explain that you want your boyfriend back and would like to make amends. Specifically state that you want to restart or maintain the romantic relationship so your boyfriend doesn't interpret the text as an attempt to start a friendship-based relationship. Texting normally relies on as few words as possible so "I want you back" or "I want my boyfriend back" will help him understand your message.

3. Suggest what can be done to make the relationship work. Your boyfriend may be more likely to consider restarting or continuing an intimate relationship if he knows that you can deal with or avoid the previous problems in the future. For example, "I'll try to stop yelling" or "I won't go out as much" provide simple, short solutions via text that can open the door for more extensive conversation later.

4. Ask your boyfriend for another chance and for a response. Once you've expressed your feelings and asked for your boyfriend's opinion, it's up to him to respond and you'll have to wait for him to answer when he's ready to. "Please let me know what you think" should garner a response when your boyfriend is ready to answer.

Tips & Warnings

• Break each step into its own text message so your boyfriend isn't receiving a wall of text and each point is made separately with a new message.

References

• American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons: Communication Skills Mentoring Program
• Unfinished Man; Sharing Your "Junk" With The World?...Don't Be A Weiner -- Tips For Using Text Messaging Effectively In Dating; Mike Muson; June 2011