How to Ask Someone Out for the First Time

Video Transcript

"Will you marry me may not be the best way to ask somebody out for the first time. Well how do you ask somebody out for the first time? This is Dr. Paul author of "Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of "Ask Dr. Paul". I think the best way to ask someone out for the first time is to have a place in mind where you are going to go and keep it light. Oh I'd love to take you to a romantic dinner at this fine restaurant is not the way to go. It's intimidating. Don't try to intimidate the other. If you are a man or a woman asking the other person out don't try to intimidate them. Keep it light. There is a little jazz group down at this bistro in whatever city you happen to be in, why don't we drop by there together on Friday night, good idea. Now that is light in the way you are asking too. If you ask it in a heavy fashion like will you marry me, that type of fashion it isn't going to fly so keep it light and have a place in mind that you are going to but not a place that is going to intimidate the other person. People are easily intimidated especially in a first situation and smile. Do you know how disarming a smile is? It really works. When you ask that person out for the first time, make them feel relaxed. You may be twisted inside but that's different, that's you. You have to make them feel relaxed. It is all about the other and then you are going to get the response that you want and besides that he or she may think that you are creative in the process. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."