How to Tell if Your Wife is Cheating

Video Transcript

"Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources, and today we're going to be talking about our relationship skills and issues that we may have. Specifically, how do we tell if our wife is cheating? Hopefully, this is something that you won't ever have to deal with, but what are the things that you need to understand to try and determine if your wife is cheating? Unfortunately, nine times out of ten, if you have an intuition, then probably your intuition is correct. You need to look at both subtle and major changes in behaviors and the behavioral patterns. For example, think about it. If you have a fine tuned automobile, or your motor boat, you know the way it sounds and the way it runs. And if it starts to misfire, you know that something's... is off kilter. And that's probably the feelings that you're getting. Now, you have to think about her behaviors. If she's come back from a business trip and acted a little differently. Is she buying you all sorts of flowers, is she telling that she loves you erratically, or differently? A much different pattern. So the changes in behavior you really need to pick up on, and kind of define how those behaviors are in terms of her normal pattern. And is there deflection taking place? Matter of fact, is she accusing you of things, of other behaviors? So you need to be aware that deflection tactic is very common in these situations. You could go to the extremes of monitoring her texts, her e-mails, her phone calls, or watching where she goes. Using electronic surveillance devices. These are extremes, but, you know, if you want to find out the situation, you know, those are options that are available to you. So, you need to prepared that it's a two way street. That there's going to be some accountability and some culpability, because, relationships don't go...have problems like this without two people really being involved and having some accountability. Perhaps it's your working eighty hours a week. Perhaps you're doing things that are taking you away from her, not giving the emotional support that she needs. The direct approach is best. Have you asked her, and watched her physical reaction? Do you believe she's you telling the truth, 'cause many times wives and husbands will come clean in these situations. And if you don't get the answer, or you believe that she's not telling you the truth, there's always her friends and her family, perhaps they will give you the truth. But, it's a difficult thing to come to know. But these are some ways that you can tell if your wife is cheating. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources, Relationships for Life."