How to Be the Perfect Wife

Video Transcript

"Hi I'm Joe Cuenco with family resources and today we are going to be talking about how to improve our marital relationship skills. In particular how to become the perfect wife. Well just how do we become the perfect wife. Well we are really not talking about the stepford wife syndrome, some folks might have thought about that movie. We are really talking about how is it that you can be perfect for your husband. Every man has his particular taste and to be a perfect wife you really need to understand what is something special that your husband enjoys and what he doesn't like and not to that. So this is really going to be personality based. But the first thing that needs to happen is that you really need to sit down and have a discussion with your husband. There maybe important things that he likes, maybe a very important meal. Perhaps he wants four hours on Sunday just to vegetate and watch a football game.You know so it's important to give him that time to make him feel special. We all want to feel special that's important to men. And in order to be a perfect wife, there really needs to have an understanding about this. So there's the major things, absolutely the foundation fundamentals. You know, love, trust, communication, respect and friendship if those are not there, then those skills really need to be worked on. But there's also little things too that can make a man happy. You know can you meet him at the door when he comes home from work after a tough day with a martini and every once in a while a man appreciates meeting his wife at the front door in saran wrap. Or a cup a coffee in the morning so these are all things that make him feel very important. The other part of the equation is how are you with his friends. You know are you friends with his friends or are you kind of standoffish. So it's important that there's a certain level of engagement there. So you know realistically you need to demonstrate that you care about him, you want to have fun with him and having fun with him is sharing in some real common interests. You know you need to have your own alone time, he needs to have his alone time, but there are things that you need to do together that you can share and have fun.I've talked to couples who go off into theater together and then if the husband enjoys going to a strip club every once in a while his wife joins him and that's something that's special to them so. Whatever you need to do to build up the relationship. So be prepared to give and ultimately you'll receive.You know from your husband so be supportive, make him feel important and there's also workshops that can be attended. Family resources puts them on, there's marriage education seminars so those things might be helpful to you as well. And this is how we learn how to become the perfect wife. I'm Joe Cuenco with family resources, relationships for life."