How to Impress: Date Questions

Video Transcript

"Have you ever had bragging rights? How to impress a date. This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls: A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and the host of Ask Dr. Paul. Bragging does not get it, be you male or female. Kibitzing, ladies, about your girlfriends doesn't get it. Men, bragging about your favorite team having won does not get it. Those things do not impress a date. What does impress a date, whether you're male or female, is subtlety, asking about the other, and active listening. In addition to that, throw some humor in there. Impressing a date has to do with, well, being somewhat off and being somewhat attentive. It's kind of a balance. That balance makes you more interesting. So impressing means making yourself seem more interesting. An off-hand compliment -- indirect, not direct -- especially if you're trying to impress somebody on a first date often works. And then find out what they really want. Time is on your side. The more time you have with this other person, the more impressed you can make them. But don't do what we call the jawbone effect, okay, where you talk yourself into a situation and then turn around and talk yourself right back out of it. Be careful of that one. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."