Getting Help With Abusive Relationships

Video Transcript

"Abuse is a serious matter. How to get help in an abusive relationship. This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls, a boomer woman's guide to men and dating, and national talk show host. As a relationship consultant, I've had way too many people call, both male and female. Oftentimes, we look at this as being a female being abused, problem, but this is not strictly a female being abused problem. If someone has a serious mental condition, called bipolar condition, that in itself can be problematic, very seriously problematic. In the event that you are in that type of relationship, there is only one thing to do, and that is to seek professional help. You can't get it from a book. You can't get it from the internet. You must seek professional help, with the significant other, that you're having that abusive experience with. If that other decides that they do not want to participate, it's time to not walk, run. Get out. It is only going to get worse, and it may never change. Keep this in mind. We don't change people. At best, we modify behavior. That's what behavioral psychology is all about, modifying behavioral, just like Pavlov's dogs. You know, you ring the bell, the dog salivates, so we can modify the behavior, but you're not going to change the person, and if you think for a moment, that you are going to change that person, you are entirely mistaken. You are wrong. Face it. Don't go to your friends and say, What can I do? because they have no clue, anymore than you have. You need professional help. Go there. Get it done, or leave period, end of sentence. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today, be your realities of tomorrow."