How Can You Avoid a Divorce?

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"How can you avoid a train wreck? How can you avoid a divorce? This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls, A boomer woman's guide to men and dating, and host of Ask Dr. Paul. How do you avoid a divorce? Well, there are some strategies involved. All right, you have kids, and for the sake of the kids you don't want to get divorced, but maybe one spouse is bi and the other spouse has been cheating and is hetero, whatever. Sit down before you go to that attorney, before you become polarized, and you say we have to think of a strategy, because number one; it's going to cost us a great deal of money, number two; we don't want to live with each other, and number three; we have children here that we want to take care of because we both love them. All right, so one of the easiest ways to handle that is this, live in separate rooms and have an open marriage. Agree by law, go to the attorney, have it drawn up so that one can't ambush the other, and say you were cheating on me and I'm going to sue you for divorce for adultery. Get it in writing from your attorney saying that I can live my life and you can live your life, and we understand with each other that we're doing this for the kids. You live in one bedroom and I live in the other bedroom, and that's the way it works. That's one strategy involved in avoiding a divorce. There are other strategies as well. I mean, a lot of people do a lot of things, like having open marriage, being swingers; there are a variety of ways to go. Before you go to that divorce, before you involve yourself with that make certain that you exhaust all of the options. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."