How to Keep the Romance in Your Relationship

Series Summary

Romance, some say, may not be an old concept in Western civilization. Our films are wont to add tumultuous love interests to ancient heroes like Beowulf, Achilles, Alexander, or Caesar, but many cultural theorists, textual experts and sociologists have argued again and again that sexuality, which is the foundation for modern day romance, is a rather new creation of society, dating back merely a couple hundred years. According to many, romantic love, or the affection two souls generate when they find kindred spirits in one another, began in the French stories of knights and chivalry. More traditional research, however, claims to find evidence of romance and intimate love in all cultures throughout history. Truly, love is a strange and enigmatic thing. In this free video series on interpersonal relationships, author Dr. Paul Vehorn, discusses the variety of issues and topics related to dating. Vehorn explains how to keep the romance alive, save a relationship, communicate, develop trust, start a relationship after divorce and even how to compromise in a relationship. These tips are important for developing good communication skills to ensure a healthy and romantic relationship. Watch these free videos and learn more about interpersonal relationships today.

Video Transcript

"Olivia Newton John had a song called "Let's Get Physical". Well how do you keep the romance in a relationship? This is Dr. Paul, Author of "Boomer Girls, A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating". I've had many of my callers on my show ask that very question and my answer frequently is get physical. Guess what? Love is all about, remember this, to have and to hold. That's what they say when they get married. To have and to hold. At least they did. Some different ceremonies differ, but basically, they're all the same. Get physical. Touch, communicate, kiss, lips are touching, you're holding each other. I don't care if you're watching television. One sitting in one chair and one sitting in the other is not going to get the job done. Build it by touching. Build it by having that physical contact with the other. The only other way that you're going to have a physical contact with anybody is probably by petting your dog or your cat. This way, you are really establishing that rapport. That dog of yours and that cat of yours is pretty smart because they know that they're bonding with you by physically you touching them, petting them and they come up to you for that. Well the same thing is true of a human being, of course. So if you want that romance to really survive and to be successful long term, do it by touching. Nothing changes. Even the infant that is born needs that. Do it. It works. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow."