How to Say I'm Sorry to a Lover

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"Love is never having to say you're sorry. I don't agree with that, but how do you say you're sorry to a lover? This is Dr. Paul, author of Boomer Girls: A Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Dr. Paul. That first quote came from a very famous movie called "Love Story". And that's nice for the movies, but there may come a time when you are going to find yourself having to say you're sorry to a lover. The first thing that you want to do in that situation is to identify what you're sorry for. A blanket "I'm sorry" is never going to work. Be specific. I am sorry for the following reason. I did the following, and I want you to know that I'm very sorry for it. You then describe what you did. I did the following. Or I did this, this, and this, and this. And let that person know how that probably made them feel. Be it man or woman, I'm certain that you felt very hurt and angry with me when I did that. And I want you to know that I'm deeply sorry for having done so. And I will not do it again. All right? It's like going to confession. Okay? I accuse myself of the following. And then you go through what you accuse yourself of. And then you are truly sorry for what you did. Don't just sit there and mumble, "I'm sorry". That's not going to work. That's not believable. And it's only going to cause more irritation. If you really want to be sorry about something, do it right and explain yourself totally. Whether you're a man or a woman, be a man or a woman. Okay? This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realties of tomorrow."