How to Handle a Breakup

Video Transcript

"Today we're going to be honing our relationship skills and we're going to be learning about how to handle "The Breakup", not the movie but actually a relationship breakup. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources and we're going to be talking today about what actually is the best way to handle a breakup. Well, you really need to be in the position to understand what's happen and be able to move on, have that mentality. But there are really too key issues, you're going to have to deal with the pride and hurt and then you're going to have to deal with avoid in your life. Dealing with the pride and hurt is something that can be tough for a lot of people because you need to take an inventory of yourself, your relationship skills and who you are as an individual and if you do that, you may come to find that there's some relationship skills or elements of your personality that may have contributed to the breakup. And therefore, you really need to learn, build yourself up, educate yourself so that you really understand this relationship fundamentals. I would suggest, possibly taking a workshop or measure, marriage education class. So once you deal with the relationship skills and you've got a good inventory, then there's the key question of dealing with "avoid" in your life. What you're going to do with the Friday night date, that Saturday night date that you used to enjoy so much, the time that you spent together. Take that time, spend it with your family. Spend it with your friends. Deal with somebody whose going to be supportive. Or, you may want to take some time by yourself; attending a theater or shows, just doing some introspective work. But the key is, you really need to have a mind set of, even though there's a proper time for grieving, there's a time for you to move on and also moving on implies growth, development and that's where the education and building yourself up and building your skills are really, really key. The other things you can do is join associations or professional associations, there's club associations, all places where you might be able to meet somebody with common interest, either sporting, in the sporting community, a theater, or civic associations or even volunteering your time for, with a local hospital or something like that. We can do some goodness in the community, help yourself, help others but also build up your skills and your relationship skills. You need to feel good about yourself and feel confident because if all you're thinking of is negative aspects of the relationship breakup, you're not going to feel confident about approaching somebody, engaging with somebody and building a friendship that can ultimately to the next relationship. So, that's how to handle a breakup. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources Relationships For Life."