How to Beat Up a Bully

Video Transcript

"Hi everybody I'm John Graden from the Martial Arts Teachers Association and johngraden.com. How do you beat up a bully? Well that's an interesting question. I like how do you defeat a bully, is the way I like to approach it. Because when we're talking about bullying there's a big spectrum. Everything from school yard tussles in elementary school, all the way to work place violence where you have people that are bullying you. Bullying is primarily damaging psychologically, it's not so much the physical damage that's the problem it's the psychological damage. So number one I want to instill into my children, if I was teaching them how to beat up a bully, how to defeat the bully. I want into instill in my children a sense of self worth and self confidence that is impenetrable by this bully's taunt or tactics. So psychologically I want to instill in my kids a strong sense of self confidence. A lot of us we're busy, we doing things. If you would like some help on that enroll your child in a good martial arts school. Look for a school that is a member of the Martial Arts Teachers Association, because you know that those instructors are continuing their education, and learning how to teach professional safe classes. With an emphasis on self confidence. Because the best way to defeat a bully is with self confidence. Now on the physical side, when a bully is actually engaging, this is what I teach my kids. Whenever a bully touches you or grabs you, I have two questions I want to ask real quickly. One, what targets are available on this guy. So he's grabbing he's opened up his arm pit. He's grabbing he's tied up one of his weapons to grabbing. He's left all of my weapons free. So I want to know what targets are available. Eyes, throat, solar plexes, groin, toes, knees, shin, arm pit, nipple, ears, hair. So he's left a lot of targets wide open. He's also left all of my weapons available. So I can then choose what weapon I want to counter with. In school there's a zero tolerance for hitting, so typically you don't want to teach your child to smash the kid in the face. Because that's going to cause a lot of problems, unless there's a real serious attack and he's got to defend himself. Then whatever it takes go ahead and do it, but typically in this kind of situation I'm just going to teach my kid to reach up and pinch real hard. Pinch under the arm, pinch in the chest, pinch some place sensitive where it hurts really bad. That usually gets somebody to let go real quick. I want the guy to think he's grabbed a hot pot and he wants to let go real fast. Thank you. There's a variety of escapes you'll want to teach your children as well. I cover a lot of these in the clips. Escape from a head lock. Escape from a full nelson. Escape from a push. Escape from a wrist grab, a hair grab. These are escapes that you can practice with your children in the situation where a bully has actually grabbed him. Remember, defeating the bully starts with confidence. Find ways to instill that confidence in your child. If you needs some help, find a good martial arts school that's associated with the Martial Arts Teachers Association and get some professional help in defeating the bully. I'm John Graden I hope that helps. Thanks."