How to Avoid a Stalker

Video Transcript

"Hi I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a Life and Dating Coach and owner of NY Dating Coach here in New York City. In this clip we'll talk about how to avoid a stalker. The most important thing is to not encourage them in any way. Even if you act in a negative way, and really act out about it, that's encouragement to them. It's attention, even negative attention is attention. So you really just need to not fully ignore it, because if it's out-of-hand you need to address that, maybe go file a report at the police station, but try to not engage in it in any way. And hold your boundary and cut-off from them. If they're calling you obsessively it's drastic, but maybe you need to change your phone number. Maybe you need to just get a complete new number unpublished and share it only with people that you really trust. Really take steps to discourage it and don't reward their bad behavior in any way whatsoever. And just even acting up to it is rewarding it for them, so really just try to be non-responsive to it and remove yourself from the situation. This is Donna Barnes from New York City."