Telltale Signs He's Not That Into You
The dating world is undeniably complicated, confusing, and sometimes downright frustrating. Trying to gauge a man's romantic interest during a first date can become completely exasperating. The same dilemma often occurs in later stages of a relationship, when trying to figure out why a guy won't commit. Fortunately, you have a few signs to look for, which can signal a painful but decisive truth: He may not be interested in you.
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Where Are His Eyes?
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Whether you're having a conversation at a bar, over a cup of coffee or a party---where are his eyes when you're speaking? Is he tuned into the conversation, focusing his attention directly on you, or are his eyes wandering around the room? Is he easily distracted by other women as they pass by---or even worse, does he text while you converse? If the answer is yes, then he is exhibiting a lack of interest in what you are saying, possibly representative of a lack of interest in you. Of course, everyone has moments of broken concentration, and you cannot expect him to hang on your every word---but if his eyes spend more time looking away from you than toward you, he is not interested.
Where Does He Spend His Weekends?
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Nicholas Aretakis, author of "Ditching Mr. Wrong," suggests another important sign: He does not give you "prime time." In other words, if you have been dating for more than a few weeks, and he still does not make an attempt to spend Friday and Saturday nights with you, then he is not interested. Wanting to hang out with his male friends constitutes normal behavior; if he goes to the bar or club every weekend without you, however, cut him off. If he were really into you, he would make room for you in his schedule.
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Is He Married? Is He Mean? And More.
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Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo co-authored the now-renowned book "He's Just Not That Into You," which encourages women to acknowledge the unmistakable signals of men's disinterest and then move on. The book, which devotes each chapter to a different sign, provides such affirmations that a man is not into you as "if he's not calling you," "if he only wants to see you when he's drunk," "if he's married" or even "if he's a selfish jerk, a bully or a really big freak." These affirmations point to one big catch-all sign: if a man does not give you the affection, attention and respect that you provide for him, he is not interested in dating.
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