How to Deal with Your Husband's Bad Temper

There are a number of ways to cope with a husband's bad temper.

Anger is one of the leading causes of divorce. It can be caused by a number of issues ranging from boredom and control issues to adultery and abandonment. When you have a husband with a bad temper, it doesn't mean the first step is to separate. Instead, use coping mechanisms to find the root of the problem and deal with the situation. To overcome a bad temper, your husband must recognize the problem and want to make the change.

Instructions

1. Pick your battles. Decide if whatever he's upset about is worth the argument. If he's just being grumpy because of something at work, just walk away from him for a moment to let him cool off.

2. Give your husband space when he gets angry. Tell him you are there to talk, but understand he needs some time alone.

3. Find time for yourself. If your husband is constantly angry, set a scheduled time away from him. Get coffee at the local shop for a couple hours or go to a movie. Tell him he's not allowed to call you or bother you during this time. If you don't want to leave the house, have a place you can go like the family room or bedroom where he is not allowed to enter for an hour or two.

4. Practice forgiveness and understanding. Talk to him about his behavior and explain how you feel about it. Do not judge him for his behavior, but work with him to overcome it.

5. Give him extra responsibilities around the home if he's angry because he lost his job or retired and feels he has no control over life. If he's angry because he's bored, help him find a hobby he can use to relieve stress and fill his time.

References

• Oprah.com; Ask Deepak: How to Deal with Your Husband's Bad Temper; Deepak Chopra; 2010
• Marital Healing; The Angry Spouse/Relative; Richard P. Fitzgibbons; 2010