How to Approach Women in a Bar

You've got to get off that bar stool to meet women.

One of the most intimidating moments in trying to meet women is the initial approach. Meeting women can be more than a little bit challenging, even in the best of circumstances, but when you consider the male-to-female ratio at a bar and the inclusion of alcohol, that challenge can seem particularly daunting. If you can put aside your fear of rejection and borrow a bit of confidence from the likes of Casanova, you may not go home with a date, but you certainly won't if you don't take the first step.

Things You'll Need

• Good hygiene
• Cologne
• Smile
• Money for drinks

Instructions

1. Identify a woman whom you would like to meet.

2. Try to make eye contact.

3. Casually smile when her eyes meet yours. If she smiles back, this is a good indication that an approach will not be immediately rejected.

4. Walk toward the girl from the front or side direction. Creeping up from behind a woman will more than likely make her uncomfortable and thwart your chances of any kind of conversation, except maybe the sort that ends with a cold shoulder.

5. Forget about cheesy pickup lines. Instead, just say, "Hi," and strike up a conversation by commenting on an offending aspect of the bar. People tend to bond over similar annoyances. As long as you aren't too negative, and keep the talk light and friendly, you should have an easy time making her acquaintance.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't forget to smile often.

• Offer to buy the woman a drink if she is willing to engage in conversation with you.

• If the girl's body language is suggesting that she is less than interested, take the hint and move on.

References

• The Player Society: Get them to think you're great
• Eioba: How to approach women without fear
• Misanthropy: Meet girls at a bar