How to Get a Divorced Man
Enter the dating scene, and you are sure to find that divorced men make up a large part of it. Some women prefer dating divorced men because the men have been "broken in" and presumably know that birthdays and holidays are important and that women dislike a toilet seat being left up. All is not roses when you date a divorced man, however. He may still be angry about his divorce or be left with pennies in his bank account after paying alimony and child support. He may be playing the field after years of being monogamous. Accepting how divorce alters a man's life will help you get the divorced man you're after.
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Go to where the divorced men are. Go to parks and events where men take their children on the weekends, or sign up for an online dating service and specify that you are looking for a divorced man.
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Make sure the man has been divorced for at least a year. According to a November 2009 article in Psychology Today, rebound relationships can be healthy for the person who is divorced, but that doesn't mean one will be the right thing for you. Stay free of rebounders by dating a divorced man who has entered the dating scene well before you came around.
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Remind him of his ex. This may seem counterintuitive, but people tend to get involved with the same physical and emotional types repeatedly. The downside to this strategy is that if your personality is like his ex's, you're likely to end up in a similarly dysfunctional relationship. No such danger exists if you merely have some of the same physical attributes.
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Make it clear that you do not have a problem with any alimony or child support payments he must make. According to research scientist Jay Zagorsky, divorce causes a person's net worth to fall an average of 77 percent. Women who expect a divorced man to support them lavishly may be in for an unpleasant surprise.
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Resolve to accept his children's presence in your life, if they exist, as well as the fact that you will be dealing with his ex-wife because she is the mother of those children. Demonstrate that you are able to get along with everyone, and your feelings must be authentic, or chances are, your relationship will not work. A supportive girlfriend can dramatically decrease the amount of stress a divorced man feels when dealing with his former family, whereas a jealous girlfriend adds to the stress---and that will send you to the door.
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Use strategies you would implement to get any other man. Men tend to be alike in that they enjoy women who are not overly clingy, who take good care of themselves and who let them feel that they are in charge some of the time.
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