How to Have Restaurant Etiquette

Learn the rules for dining out before that important lunch meeting.

Knowing the rules of dining etiquette can help you impress a date, an employer or a new friend. No matter how formal or casual the meal is, proper behavior means that you respect the people around you. Being cordial to waitstaff as well as your dining companions will separate you favorably from the uneducated and ill-mannered.

Things You'll Need

• politeness
• patience
• dignity
• decency
• respect

Instructions

1. Arrive at the restaurant on time. Be seated when your entire party has arrived.

2. Sit comfortably, but do not slouch or put your elbows on the table.

3. If your host is picking up the tab, follow her lead on the price range of your dish. Alternatively, order something in the middle of the restaurant's price range. Also, gauge your host's attitude on alcohol. For example, if the meal is part of a job-interview process, don't order alcohol.

4. Talk about non-controversial topics. Brainstorm a few "safe" topics -- movies, travel -- before you arrive.

5. Be polite to your server, whose job is to make your meal pleasant. Do not blame her issues outside her control.

6. When using flatware, remember to start with the utensils on the outside and work your way in toward the plate.

7. If you are paying the bill, tip appropriately, usually about 15 to 20 percent of the pre-tax total.

Tips & Warnings

• tipping is not when you root through your pockets or purse to find some loose change...it is at least 15 % of the total bill.

References

• University of Missouri Career Center: Guide to Dining Etiquette