The art of staying calm in stressful situations puts people around you at ease. When you show patience, you appear approachable to friends, family and coworkers. Some people seem naturally more serene than others, but you can learn techniques to achieve the same level of zen. Practice each step every day.
Practice deep-breathing techniques. Increasing oxygen promotes blood flow, slows the heart beat and relieves anxiety. If you feel as though you're losing your patience, stand or sit using good posture; breathe in slowly through your nose, filling your lower lungs first; and hold your breath for a few seconds then exhale slowly through your mouth. When you are stressed, use deep breathing to calm your nerves.
Widen your perspective. When you are coaching someone on a new topic, think about the person's place as a beginner. They might not be familiar with the tools, software, skills or routine of the task you are teaching. Children in particular lack certain cognitive abilities with which adults are equipped. Learning takes time. Thinking about a situation from the viewpoint of another person can help you stay calm and helpful.
Accept when something is outside your control. If you're stuck in a traffic jam, stressing about it, swearing out the window, or glaring at construction crews won't decrease your commute time. Likewise, if your employee or coworker makes a mistake, realize you cannot erase the error. Yelling will make them nervous and could actually increase the number of mistakes they make. By accepting the mistake for what it is -- human -- you might promote better performance. Teaching them how to avoid the same problem in the future through coaching is your better option.
Embrace humor. Laughing relieves stress and anxiety, which will make you a lighter personality. Get in the habit of laughing in non-stressful situations so you are better equipped to deal with the hard ones. Try starting your meeting with jokes, or finding the humor in a seemingly serious situation. If your child spreads peanut butter on the walls, see it as a tasty and free redecoration.
Learn to time your life less often. Checking your watch all the time can put you on edge because you're trying to keep schedule. Going with the flow can be a calming reality. Practice by leaving the watch at home before social engagements. Now, focus your full attention on the experience of being with others.