How to Survive Being Single

Solitude

Finding yourself in a broken relationship and adapting to the loneliness can be a challenge. Living a single life can be a tough journey, but you can survive.

Things You'll Need

• time
• resources
• a positive attitude

Instructions

1. Rest Assured

   Step number one in coping with newly found single life is to rest assured knowing that you are not alone. Millions of people have found themselves in your same shoes and have survived only to come out stronger and better. Even if closure to the relationship was not your idea or desire, just remember that you are a survivor. The only way to lose is to quit. So, pull up your bootstraps, take a deep breath, and press on. You can gain comfort and security just knowing that there are others out there who have felt the same anguish and have made it through. Rest assured that life will go on and you will be OK.

2. Find Good Resources

   Step two in recovering from the disappointment of a failed relationship is to discover that there are many good books and DVDs available at bookstores and at your local library that can help you blaze a trail through this lonely walk. Sometimes, it takes a daily perspective to help you get through the toughest times. You will find that wise counsel not only helps with the anxiety and stress that accompany broken relationships, but that it also helps you to refocus on the people and things that still matter most. Even though the object of your passion has changed, the ideals behind it have not. So, strive to channel those desires into constructive ways by: loving your kids more, investing time in your personal interests, and maintaining a healthy and balanced state of mental health.

3. Time is the Best Healer

   Step three in finding ways to be OK with single life is to realize that nothing in life is constant...life is a state of perpetual flux. Just when you think all hope is lost and you feel like abandoning the idea of ever entering a relationship again, you realize that your heart is healing. The sting of the bite just doesn't hurt as much as it once did. It is true that the pain of a broken relationship can feel as horrible as the loss of a loved one, but fortunately it doesn't usually take as long to bounce back. In general, it takes about six months to get used to the solitude and another six to regain the lost ground. So, give yourself a good full year to recover and see where you are then. Time really is the best healer.