How to Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again

After being in a relationship for a while, it can feel like the butterflies are gone, and that feeling of giddiness when you see your partner just won't come back.

But remember that for a healthy, long-lasting relationship, not only do you have to have friendship, but you also have to preserve that nice feeling of love. Here is how you can do it:

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

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   Remember what it was that started the sparks in the first place. Is your partner extremely spontaneous? Were you attracted to their zest for life?
   Whatever it was, try to spark it again. Maybe it's time you two went on that dream vacation to Rome, or maybe you should go sky-diving. Find something that you two can do together, that will take you out of your routine and make you feel alive.

2. Make an effort to spend more time getting intimate. Sometimes our crazy routines means that there is no longer time for intimacy, which is very important in a relationship.
   By making time to become intimate, you can reinsert passion into your relationship.

3. Stop focusing on your partner's negative traits and look at the positive instead. When we first fall in love with a person, we see no wrong in them. Once that person is constantly in our lives, however, we start seeing a whole new side of them that we just had not seen. Maybe your partner is too much of a perfectionist, or not spontaneous enough.
   
   Learn to look past that and see everything great that your partner really is.

4. Be romantic with each other. Prepare each other an unexpected candlelight dinners, or leave each other silly notes. These are small gestures that used to be done in the beginning of the relationship, and kept the butterflies very much alive.
   
   Maybe to fall back in love all you need is for your partner to woo you again.

5. Share details of your day with your partner. Keep each other involved in your day-to-day, making time to talk about your dreams, goals and expectations. This will remind you of all that you have in common, and what has brought you together.
   
   It will also ensure that you are making time for each other.

6. Pick up a new activity together. Try something you have never done before, which could be anything from canoeing to language classes. This will help you see a whole new side of your spouse that you may come to admire, sparking new feelings of love.

[sonni57]

on 5/26/2009 It's always good to look at the positive traits then love is free to work it's magic.

[marcelle1011]

on 5/26/2009 Nice article. Those of us who have been married a while can relate to the situations you've written about. Important to remember why we got hitched in the first place! R/5*

[BellaCasa]

on 5/26/2009 I heart this article :)