Things You'll Need:
- Have an open heart and an open mind. Have the willingness to let go. The need to have personal, spiritual and mental freedom.
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Step 1
When a person finds it hard to forgive it is usually because of anger, resentment and personal pride. It is often seems as a "win/loose" situation. They may see them self as being weak and vulnerable if they show any signs of forgiveness or letting go. A person may often use the lack of forgiveness as a tool or armour to protect themselves from being hurt again.
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Step 2
Forgiveness is mostly for ourselves. To forgive does not mean that you will accept that behavior, but to tell yourself "I will not let the feelings of anger and resentment rule my life". Not to forgive will be giving the other person the power to control the mental, physical and spiritual parts of your life and take away or interfere with your personal freedom.
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Step 3
To forgive you must start with an open heart and mind. Begin to tell yourself "I will no longer let these thoughts and feelings control me". With love and the need for mental and physical freedom you will begin the path of letting go. You will allow the past to be the past and not let it interfere in any way in present happiness. You may meditate or use any small ritual such as writing out the problem then burning the paper. Tell yourself "I will no longer let this be a part of my life.
