How to Flirt with your Spouse (Beginners Level)

Love

Flirting is, at its most basic, a way to communicate love in a marriage. There is an art to flirting, and it's an art that can be learned. The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun. Read body language. Be spontaneous in your marriage. The best flirtatious moments will always take your spouse by surprise. Imagine that you learned the art of flirting with your spouse in a way that was enjoyable and fulfilling. Can you imagine how this would impact your marriage for the good? Follow these steps and see what happens.

Difficulty:

Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need

• sense of humor
• love

1. 

   Give the person your complete attention. Laugh at their jokes, listen to their stories, and don't get distracted by what's going on around you. When flirting with your spouse, it's more important to seem interested than to seem interesting. This is about the other person. Being a good listener is far more important in successful flirting in a marriage than being smart/informed/witty. Make eye contact with your spouse when you are flirting.

2. 

   Be affectionate and thoughtful in your marriage. This is simple yet profound. When you're going through the motions of life, little gestures of affection get lost. So start with the basics. Kiss and say 'I love you' in the morning. Do it again in the evenings. The day after my husband and I were married, we happened upon a couple celebrating their 50th anniversary. My husband asked the gentleman to share the secret to their success. The wise and experienced husband replied 'kiss your wife every morning and again every night, even if you don't feel like it.' They exchanged flirtatious glances and both laughed (which makes me believe humor is also a very important component to flirting in a long and happy marriage).

3. 

   Use positive words of love. Choice phrases that make the other feel like a valuable, meaningful, sought-after catch are vital. Sometime during the day, call the other person and say 'I can't wait to see you' or 'I was just thinking about you'. Compliment your spouse whenever possible. Positive words of love generate a sexual energy that make you both feel good and desired. They send the message: 'I want you.' Communicate a pure interaction of acceptance, appreciation, and genuine interest whenever possible.

4. 

   Be light-hearted and loving. Keep the conversation up-beat and positive, and don't forget to smile. One of the best things two people can share while flirting with each other is a good laugh. Make your spouse laugh often. Mirroring is an effective flirting technique which involves making similar movements and assuming the same positive body language as your spouse. Notice if your spouse's tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own. Infuse the conversation with lots of laughter and questioning tones. If your spouse responds in the same way, you are flirting with each other! What fun.

Tips & Warnings

• Do not take things too seriously

• Be fun and have fun