How to Decide to Get Married
You've been in a relationship now for a long time now. You've said the "L" word and now she's pressuring you, dropping hints about a diamond ring. Or maybe you've been sighing, hoping that he'll pop the question soon. But how do you know if you two are ready to get married? Here are some things to consider when you are deciding whether or not to get married.
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Do you love each other truly and deeply? I don't mean lust and I don't mean that butterfly in the stomach, head-over-heels kind of love. That love doesn't last. I mean the nurturing kind of love, the best friend love, the love that will stand the test of time and the ups and downs that all marriages face.
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Do not marry for money. But, finances is something to take into account. Is she still in school? Who is going to pay for the bills? Will you both contribute to the bills? Will you have separate bank accounts or open a joint one? If you two agree on finances before marriage, it can make things a lot easier after the trip down the altar.
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Are you two compatible? Do you agree on religion and politics? Although not a prerequisite of marriage (and many, many successful marriages work despite difference in opinions because of respect), it can certainly make things easier. Also, the more you talk about the big picture topics, the more likely you will learn how you think and feel as a real couple, as a team, as a partnership.
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A reason why some people get married: she's pregnant. Don't rush into a marriage for this reason as marriages should be for life. Ask yourself if you would be getting married just because of the pregnancy. Were you even thinking about marriage before you found out? These are some questions to keep in mind. Sometimes marriage isn't the best option for the two of you.
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Do you respect each other? Want to spend as much time together as possible? Wake up with that person next to you? Hear them first thing in the morning and be the last person to talk to them at night? Do you want to do anything you can to make him smile? Make her laugh? Then wedding bells may be in your future.
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Tips & Warnings
Love is great but it isn't enough to make marriage last. You need respect and friendship also.
Do not marry for money.
Do not marry to stop feeling lonely or insecure.
