How to Tell if Your Husband is Cheating

Look for the signs of cheating.

There is nothing in life more difficult then realizing that the person you trusted the most and considered your lover and friend is cheating on you. To tell if your husband is cheating, you must first accept the fact that it can happen, and then you need to become extremely observant of your husband's day-to-day behaviors and habits. Playing the detective may not feel comfortable, but it's necessary if you are to find out the truth.

Instructions

1. Accept the fact that your husband may be cheating on you. Until you accept the possibility, you will stay blind to obvious changes in his routine and behavior. Your mind will look to rationalize every event or circumstance. Once you accept the possibility that he may be cheating, then you will start to recognize the signs.

2. Observe changes in his routine. Is there a sudden change in his work schedule? Is he working overtime more often than usual? Are there emergency meetings that never happened before? Does he come in late at night and go directly to the computer? Is he staying up later at night and waiting until you have gone to bed before he goes to bed? Are spontaneous plans made without consulting you?

3. Observe his physical appearance. Is he dressing better? Is he keeping his hair trimmed more often? Does he all of a sudden start purchasing his own clothes? When he dresses, does he spend time looking at himself in the mirror? Men who are cheating are concerned about their appearance. Check the medicine cabinet for changes in his toiletries.

4. Pay attention to his behavior. Does he have fewer conversations with you and stay silent for periods of time? If you normally watch television together, does he walk off to another room? Does he avoid physical contact? He may not hug or kiss you, but that doesn't mean he won't have relations with you. It's a confusing time for him. Any person involved in cheating is dealing with internal conflict. Does he get angry at you easily or pick fights with you? Part of guilt is rationalizing the cheating. If you are difficult to be with, it allows him to feel better about the unfaithfulness.

5. Check the computer and his cell phone. On the computer, check the history. If it has been deleted, that is certainly a red flag. Few people delete the history on a computer unless they want to hide something. Check the cell phone incoming calls and outgoing calls. Look for calls that would occur when he is driving to and from work.

6. Look for the obvious. Is there a strange perfume smell in the car or on his shirts? Look for strands of hair in the car and on his clothing. Listen for calls to the house that are not answered and then his cell phone rings. Pay attention when someone calls the house and you answer and they hang up. Answer his cell phone and watch his reaction. Check his pockets for unusual receipts.

7. Collect the evidence. Keep a log of all the observations. Once you sit down and look through it all, you will have a good idea if you need to be concerned.

Tips & Warnings

• Cheating can happen whether you've been married for five or 25 years.

• Ignoring the obvious won't help the relationship.

Resources

• Read this Article in Spanish