How to Make Yourself Irresistible

Do you want that feeling of being utterly irresistible--to prospective lovers, to co-workers and career networks, to family, friends and everyone else you meet? The true secret is that the feeling starts inside and slowly exudes out through every inch of your body.

Difficulty:

Easy

Instructions

1. Believe you're gorgeous. Our society is very focused on the concept of beauty, but it's very flexible, fluid and open to suggestion. If you believe you are sexy, gorgeous and hotter than a supermodel, chances are everyone else will believe that, too. First, read "Phenomenal Woman" in the links below. Even if you aren't a woman, it gives you the general idea--everyone is so much more than the sum of their parts--so rock it!

2. Look in the mirror and smile. Smile coyly. Smile slowly. Smile with a little giggle. Smile and bite your lip. Smile with a huge laugh, and watch--enthralled, obsessed with your own image and, more than anything else, appreciative. Notice how your cheeks lift, your eyes sparkle, your face catches the light. Appreciate how much joy shows on your face. Know that every time you smile, every time you grin, laugh or chuckle, you are introducing that joy into the world.

3. Smile. Next time you meet someone, see your friends or go to work, remember the joy in your smile--the natural, effervescent joy. Smile constantly. And while you smile, look at the person across from you--really focus on them. Assume from the outset that they DO find you irresistible. Act accordingly.

4. Follow your bliss. True, inner irresistibility is about loving yourself with abandon, so take a night/day/week/month, however long you need, and take some time off. Pamper yourself. Read a new book. Pursue your dreams. Find your inner light by indulging what makes you truly happy.

5. Be honest with yourself. Whip out the mirror again. Now that you've found the light in your smile, examine your face, your body, your personality and soul. Find your flaws. Unforgiving? Huge pores? Crooked nose? Jot them all down mentally. Notice them, acknowledge them, appreciate them. Being irresistible is not synonymous with being bionic; irresistibility is when you see how truly, fabulously human you are, see your flaws, and love them. Flaws, beauty, light, darkness--everything together is what makes you whole, and wholly irresistible.

Tips & Warnings

• Once you get started, irresistibility can become addictive. Use with caution!

Resources

• Maya Angelou's Phenomenal Woman