How to Cope With Anger

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Curb your anger the next time you're close to flying off the handle and doing something you may regret.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Anger-management Counseling

Step 1

Take slow, deep breaths and count to 10 when you feel a hot surge of anger. Use the time this takes to keep yourself from doing something rash.
Step 2

Try to consider the offensive situation from all perspectives, not just your own ' maybe the offending parties had no choice but to do what they did. Consider whether your anger is justified.
Step 3

Think about the object of - and the underlying reason for - your anger. Go beyond easy scapegoats and focus on what specifically triggered your temper.
Step 4

Take positive action to improve the situation once you're in a more controlled state of mind. For example, if you feel your boss treated you unjustly, collect yourself first and then approach him or her with your concerns. Refrain from venting and taking it out on your subordinates or colleagues.

Tips & Warnings

Feeling tired can make you more irritable and prone to anger. Make sure you're getting enough sleep and eating a healthy diet.
Establish a regular exercise program to physically let out tension and lingering aggression.
If you're aware of specific issues that provoke your anger, avoid encountering them to the extent you're able.
Running late or feeling behind may trigger your temper more easily. Schedule your day with cushion time for commutes, projects at work and the other things you have to do.
Maintain a sense of perspective and avoid taking the situation at hand too seriously. Step away from it and try to find something humorous or ridiculous about your circumstances, since a good laugh can quickly dispel anger.

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Comments

ansu101 said

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on 3/4/2009 I think it's important do not let yourself "to react" in a heat of emotion, just walk away. Then recollect and apply to the root of the problem, not the trigger point, which sets you off.

on 10/14/2008 lemas, though this a quite a bit late, I hope not too late.

Meditation may help you release the pressure that's dumped on you dealing with angry clients all day! STOP and take those deep breaths.

Consider in your mind that the negative energy coming from all those people you're speaking with is affecting you. So you have to distance yourself, and get rid of the negative energy in some way.

You can do this by centering yourself in PEACE. You're being bombarded! To protect yourself you need to have a shield! The only shield I know of that's truly effective is Christ Jesus. Jesus is a real person who can protect you-your sould from the effects of the bombardment of all that anger from others.

It's not an instant fix! It's a day by day by day relationship with Jesus.

It works for me!

"Come unto me all you who labor and are heavily laden and I will give you rest." HE does! I

lemas said

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on 3/24/2008 just wondering if anyone can help me?
i work from home on the phone all day to IKEA customers and find it very stressful and the last week i keep reaching boiling point and snapping at the slightest thing. really upsets me as im snapping at my partner and she doesnt deserve that, im kind and laid back and really outgoing but lately i feel angry and gettin upset as i dont know where its coming from. i broke a string on my guitar yesterday at rehearsal with my band yesterday and i threw it across the room which is not me!!!
i feel like im losin the plot, can anyone give me advice?