How to Use Chat Rooms to Find Romance
Chat rooms can be lively, entertaining places to meet new people. Take your time and learn the unwritten rules so that you can find friends without getting flamed.
- Difficulty:
- Moderately Easy
Instructions
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Investigate a variety of chat rooms. Look at the chat areas provided by your online service or ISP, but also search for interesting Web sites that host chat sessions.
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Choose a few chat rooms in which you feel comfortable and just observe at first.
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Pick up the rhythm and spirit of the rooms you visit regularly but keep your initial comments brief and modest.
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Wait for the regulars to draw you out and teach you the rules. Ask them for advice or to recommend other chat rooms or forums where you might find like-minded folks.
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Make your views known more candidly as you become accepted.
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Offer humorous remarks if they seem appropriate.
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Read the personal profiles (if available) of the interesting people you meet during chat sessions.
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Send "instant messages" (if possible) to individuals you find intriguing, particularly if they appear to be potential romantic partners.
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Exchange e-mail addresses with possible romantic interests before leaving the chat room.
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Set up private chat sessions with people you find appealing. Send them e-mail to remind them about these "appointments."
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Make notes about the men/women you find most engaging and use them in subsequent chat sessions or when writing them e-mail.
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Keep the pace of promising online relationships slow when using chat sessions and e-mail to get to know your new friend.
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Tips & Warnings
Avoid arguments in chat rooms.
Try not to focus on romance when chatting in groups. Romantic "prospects" often pop up in the midst of spirited or humorous chat sessions. They will be drawn to your comments if you concentrate on what's being said as well as who's in the room.
Many people enjoy insulting or "flaming" unsuspecting newcomers in chat rooms. Do not try to beat them at their own game. Either ignore them or fend them off with humor.
Remember that misrepresentation is common in cyberspace because it's so easy to do there.
