How to Overcome Shyness

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Self-esteem Books

Step 1

Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.
Step 2

Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.
Step 3

Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.
Step 4

Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.
Step 5

Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.
Step 6

Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.
Step 7

Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.

Comments

jeffreyh911 said

on 7/1/2009 can somebody help me
i dont no if im quiet or shy
i think im shy and quiet at the same time
wats the differnece between being shy and being quiet

c in school in some of my classes im talk to people. And other classes im so quiet and i dont talk to anybody. well i might talk to somebody if somebody talks to me first or somebody asks my a question

so if anybody can help me, u can email me
my email is- Jedimaster544@yahoo.com

Aries0681 said

on 3/21/2009 Wonderful adorable article! 5*

gururaul said

on 3/13/2009 Some shyness is natural. However, if you are overly shy all the time you may have social anxiety disorder. This is not a natural feeling but million of people suffer with this and don't know that there's help. Effexor is one such medicine that helps this. A doctor can help more.