How to Overcome Shyness
Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.
Instructions
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Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.
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Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.
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Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.
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Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.
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Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.
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Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.
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Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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zoiberg7775
Aug 02, 2010
i have tried this: "Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public."- it's worked for me but the problem for me was inconsistency. it's some you must practice everyday and not just when you think you need to. (personal experience) -
stringfellow99
Jul 31, 2010
You can't just turn off shy. I've lived with this my whole life and it's not a disorder it is a personality trait which I don't think you can change. sorry. -
Aries0681
Mar 21, 2009
Wonderful adorable article! 5* -
Aries0681
Mar 21, 2009
Wonderful adorable article! 5* -
gururaul
Mar 13, 2009
Some shyness is natural. However, if you are overly shy all the time you may have social anxiety disorder. This is not a natural feeling but million of people suffer with this and don't know that there's help. Effexor is one such medicine that helps this. A doctor can help more.