How to Get Over a Crush on One's Best Friend

After spending a lot of time with your best friend, you may discover that you want your platonic relationship to become a romantic one. If your friend doesn't feel the same way, however, use these strategies to overcome your crush and preserve the friendship.

Instructions

1. Realize that taking your friendship to the next level isn't just a natural progression of the relationship. Although you're her valued and trusted friend, she may not be attracted to you romantically or physically. Try not to make her feel guilty for not sharing your feelings.

2. Ask for some time alone if he knows how you feel. Tell him to stop calling, emailing or visiting your house until you let him know it's OK. He should understand that you have to get past the hurt so you can consider him just a friend again. If your relationship was strong before, you should be able to get it back eventually.

3. Change seats, switch lockers with another friend, take different corridors to class, sit somewhere else for lunch and steer clear of your typical hang outs so you won't see her while you're trying to overcome your feelings.

4. Distract yourself to get over the crush by participating in clubs, sports or other extracurricular activities. Help your mom around the house or ask to work more hours at your after school job. Take classes, join a youth group or find a new hobby outside of school where you might meet someone else that you're attracted to.

5. Concentrate on the reasons why your best friend wouldn't make an ideal boyfriend. You probably know a few of his character flaws and bad habits that would eventually drive you crazy if you were dating. Conversely, dwell on the reasons why you value your friendship to motivate you to salvage that relationship.