How to turn enemies into friends

Having enemies is exhausting. Let's be honest. who really wants to think that there are people out there that hate us? Most people are not really OK with that whole thought. There are a lot of people who say that they are fine with having enemies but then complain ruthlessly about all the terrible things these enemies do and end up with the question, "Why do they hate me so much? What did I do?" So now the mission is to make friends and not enemies....or rather conform enemies to friends. Read on to learn how to turn enemies into friends.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Start off by taking serious look at why this person is your "enemy." What makes you not like him/her or vice versa? Is the reason something that you cannot get past and maybe rather than being a friend, you should just work on being polite only in passing? Or is the reason something immature and superficial and there really is no reason that everyone cannot just get along? Once you do some soul searching and can honestly answer this question, you can determine if you want to proceed to the next steps.

2. Be nice. This may take some time and practice to be nice to someone who is maybe horribly rude to you or that you have gotten in the habit of being quite rude to yourself. If you are really wanting to develop a friendship with this person, though, you must be nice. Think about your current friends. Are you friends with them because they treat like you dirt or because they are kind and considerate and caring? More than likely, it is the latter or the two.

3. Make small talk. Open up a conversation about a common interest that you may have and see what happens from there. It is small but it is a start and that is where everything begins.

4. Be patient. If this person is your enemy at this point in time, there is a reason for it and he/she will have to have time to overcome that reason. Time will help you to show this person that you are worth being friends with. That you are not as bad as what he or she thought.

5. Do kind acts without expecting any reciprocation. Good people will do acts for others without expecting anything in return and those who are not felt obligated to return the favor, will actually appreciate the act more and think more highly of the person doing the act.

6. Do not be desperate or annoying or even come close to stalking the enemy to get them to be your friend. This will actually push the person away even more. Do your good deeds, be nice, and then sit back and do not stress about how that person will react. He or she will either wake up and see you for the great person that you are or continue to be stubborn and remain a nemesis to you.

7. Remember the old saying "Not everyone will like you." If after the above steps, you are not "friends" with your "enemy," then accept that you two were never meant to be more than two people who know each other's names and move on. Don't waste another moment on someone who is not interested in knowing the great you that you are. Give someone else the chance instead.