How to React If an Ex-Boyfriend Asks One Out Again

Your reaction to your ex-boyfriend asking you out again will probably depend on the reasons why you broke up, the changes you've both made in your lives, your goals and how you honestly feel about his suggestion. Stay true to your convictions and don't let emotion or loneliness make decisions for you.

Instructions

1. Thank him politely and tell him you'll need some time to think about it. This is, of course, if you're unsure and actually do need time to think about it. You don't need time if your gut's telling you no, the reasons you broke up were clearly unresolvable or there was abuse. In those cases, say no politely and move on.

2. Evaluate the reasons why you broke up and whether there has been significant change that would warrant giving the relationship another chance. Sometimes two people are good together but met at the wrong time for it to work smoothly. Be as objective as possible. Make a list of questions to ask him, if necessary, to evaluate the changes he's made.

3. Be clear on what you need from a relationship and your individual goals and whether your ex-boyfriend can offer you that. If you want marriage and he wants a good time, you're not on the same page and it won't work this time around, either.

4. Discern your own readiness to be in a relationship. If there are other factors influencing you to say yes, like loneliness, take the necessary time to deal with your own stuff before inviting someone to share your life with you.