How to Be Secure. Insecurity is a terrible feeling. Constant thoughts of not being good enough for your partner, your job or any other situation can seem difficult to overcome. Those who suffer from insecurity are unable to believe in their own ability, goodness and skills. There are steps you can take to learn how to be secure.
Understand that people are all different and that no one is better than anyone else is. All people are equal and special in their own way.
Tell yourself good things about yourself every day. If you're constantly replaying negative thoughts about yourself in your head, reprogram yourself to recognize and appreciate the things about yourself that are positive and original.
Take care of yourself. Treat yourself well the same way you treat those you love by taking care of your health and well-being and do things that you enjoy in life.
Learn to control your anxiety. It's completely natural to feel anxious when faced with challenging situation, but the key is learning to control your anxiety so it doesn't control you.
Plan ahead for life's difficulties. Prepare for those situations that you can control to help you be secure.
Work to be secure. Learning to be secure is hard work, but the results are worth it.
Act secure until it becomes natural for you. Think of a secure person you admire and study the things about them that make them appear so secure.