How to Behave on a First Date

Learn how to ace a first date.

First dates can be social minefields. Nerves and expectations run high as you both avoid awkward silences and painfully bad jokes. You have to tread a fine line between seeming too interested (read: desperate) and too aloof. If you like your date, you might find yourself agonizing over whether she feels the same; if you don't like her, you might find it a struggle to get through dinner. Either way, be respectful and be yourself. You may find yourself with a new partner or friend.

Instructions

1. Show up on time. Nothing is more inconsiderate than making your date wait. If you need to reschedule, call as far in advance as possible -- at least a few hours' notice. If you're running even a little late, send a text.

2. Act natural -- but not too natural. Talk to your date as you would to a friend. You can tell jokes, funny stories and generally be yourself; however, leave potty humor, sex stories and bodily functions at home.

3. Ask engaging questions. Be creative. Your date will appreciate the chance to go beyond the usual first-date subjects. Ask her about the best meal she ever ate or the worst job she ever had.

4. Listen. Even if her enthusiasm about a job internship isn't of interest to you, you could still learn something new. Smile and ask engaging follow-up questions. Turn off your cell phone; you can't listen while sending a text or reading restaurant reviews.

5. Be positive. Stick to fun subjects -- travel, hobbies, good movies -- rather than complaining about your boss, your health or (a real turn-off) your ex. Show your date that you're an easygoing, optimistic person, and she'll be more likely to go on a second date with you.

6. Be polite. Even if your date is the most boring companion since the high school geometry champ, remember that she still deserves your kindness and respect. Stay for one drink or a cup of coffee and participate in the conversation. Even if it's a challenge, think of it as dating practice.

Tips & Warnings

• Always bring extra cash in case of emergency.

• Avoid bringing up past relationships or talking too much about your last break-up.

References

• Glamour; 25 First-Date Dos and Don'ts; Lindsey Unterberger
• Marie Claire; My First Date Audition Checklist; Rich Santos; August 2009

Resources

• Read this Article in Spanish