Things You'll Need:
- A job
- Coworkers
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Step 1
Make the first gesture. Many people hesitate to be the first one to offer a greeting, so take the initiative and do it yourself. After all, you are the new person, so you know that you don’t know anyone and that they don’t know you. By being the first to offer a warm handshake and introducing yourself, you can show your coworkers that you want to be friends.
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Step 2
Be conscientious of others. Remember that you’re probably filling the shoes of someone who was a friend of theirs, so they may appear to be unfriendly to you simply because they are trying to be loyal to their friend. Just continue to be friendly while giving them the chance to warm up to you and try not to take it personally. They’ll come around to being your friend before too long.
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Step 3
Listen to their advice. Even if you know better than they do, listen to your coworkers’ advice. The last thing you want to do when starting out at a new job is to appear that you’re not willing to be a team player. Unless it causes a significant problem, take the backseat for now. You can introduce new ideas once you’re accepted as a member of their team.
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Step 4
Appeal to their egos. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, so ask your coworkers some personal questions. Remember their spouses’ and children’s names, and occasionally ask them for updates. Try not to talk about yourself unless they ask you personal questions. By showing your coworkers you’re interested in them, they will be more likely to open up to you and view you as a friend.
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Step 5
Demonstrate your loyalty. In other words, don’t be a tattletale. Unless someone is committing a crime or hurting themselves or someone else, you don’t need to run to your boss with every little detail. The boss will usually find out on their own anyway.
