How to Manage a Child's Temper Tantrum

It's normal for toddlers to throw temper tantrums.

The best way to manage a child's temper tantrum is to prevent them from happening. Part of being a toddler, however, is learning how to act so temper tantrums are expected and normal. If you give in to your child's temper tantrum, she could think this is the proper way to act and the behavior will continue and possibly become more difficult to get under control. Children typically grow out of this behavior around 4 to 5 years old. If your child is older, you may consider discussing it with your doctor as it may be a symptom of another issue.

Instructions

1. Create a daily routine and be consistent. When your child knows what to expect each day, he is less likely to become over stimulated. If your child takes a daily nap, make sure it's around the same time every day. By creating consistency throughout the day, he won't be so surprised when nap time arrives.

2. There will be times when you have to break the routine, but in these cases, plan ahead. If you know you will be out around a meal or snack time, bring something along to eat. If you have to go out during nap time or will be out past bed time, bring along a favorite blanket or bedtime toy. A favorite small, portable toy can make a nice distraction when your child would rather be playing, but circumstances prevent it.

3. Your child can understand far more words than she can actually communicate, so it's important to speak to your child like you would speak to another adult. Not only will this help her to build better communication skills, but she will also know to use words rather than pointing or crying to let you know what she wants.

4. Let your child make choices throughout the day. By giving him options, he has a sense of control. Ask if he would like to wear the green or the red shirt; would he like oranges or apples with lunch? Offer positive reinforcement by telling him he made a good choice. Always praise good behavior so he knows he is behaving as expected.

5. If a temper tantrum can't be avoided, maintain a patient composure and go about your business, paying no attention your child's crying. It is important to let your child know that she won't get her way by throwing a fit. Even when in public, maintaining this attitude toward bad behavior is important. People will recognize that you are handling the situation and understand this is sometimes typical in toddlers.

References

• Mayo Clinic: Temper tantrums: How to keep the peace