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Step 1
Start off by saying you're sorry. You cannot move past the fight and heal if nothing has been resolved. I'm sure mean things were said, that you want to apologize for. Holding on to your angry, or holding a grudge will just make you ill and feel stressed, let it go.
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Step 2
Okay I admit, I mostly fight with my significant other. In all the years we've been together, he's the one that apologizes first. Me, I need time to go for a walk, stew a little, and than I'm ready to make up. Sometimes I admit I need a few days...but in the end we make up.
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Step 3
Not all fights get resolved. I find a lot of them is the same stuff coming up and up again. Or stuff from the past being thrown in my face, sometimes you just need to let go and let it just wash off you. I've learnt to keep my cool for the most part and realize that my partner is upset for some reason. Once he's said what he needed to say, he feels better and we can move on. An important thing to remember is, usually one person is extremely angry, so it's not a good time to further enrage this person. Keep your thoughts to yourself, and talk to him/her once he/she is calmer. You will get nothing resolved if you are just shouting at each other.
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Step 4
Sometimes my mother and I get into fights. And she doesn't apologize. I usually just bite the bullet and call her and we pretend nothing happened. You need to recognize who the person is you're fighting with and if they are mature or not. Immature people will not make it easy to make up with them. Mature people will take the high road and say they are sorry, immature people not so much. You need to decide how much this person means to you, and whether or not you want to make up with them. Sometimes it's easier to just cut your losses.
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Step 5
My last step, if you are angry with your spouse, never go to bed angry. This is great advice. Think of it as the last time you might see that person, do you really want to leave it on those terms? Whatever you're fighting about can't be that important, say you're sorry and than talk when you are both calmer. And remember things are said in the heat of the moment that aren't really meant, don't get stuck on these things...and don't relive or harp on arguements, just let it go.
Comments
ljsomma said
on 10/8/2009 great tips, i think i need to use them tonight...ugh 5!
cis4car said
on 9/21/2009 good article...good tips...thanks 5* & recommended : )
ezyas123 said
on 7/22/2009 Gr8 tips!