How to Know When Your Marriage is Over

Every relationship has some good days and some bad days, and that's normal with marriage too. All couples go through changes and problems that life throws at them, either making them closer or pushing them farther apart. When there are a noticeably increasing amount of bad days, maybe you need to assess the situation and the relationship. It's sometimes difficult to know whether it's just another bad day, or possibly the marriage is really irreconcilable.

Instructions

1. Spend quality time together. When you first got together, all that you could think of was being with him, talking to him and thinking of ways just to see him. It should still be that way. If the thought of just being left alone sounds like more fun than being with him, then there are issues that might not go away.

2. Plan for intimate time together. It's a bad sign if this step doesn't even interest you, might as well skip to the next one. There is still definite potential in saving your marriage if this isn't a problem in your relationship and especially if this idea is exciting to you.

3. Communicate your feelings to each other. One of the most important things is the communication between spouses; if you don't have it, there's not much left. If you can still carry on an interesting, intelligent conversation without having a knock-down-drag-out fight, there is still hope. This will bring you to step four.

4. Decide if the amount of fights are increasing. As noted above, all couples have fights now and then. If the intensity of your fights have gotten worse or that is all that you seem to do, even about small things, it could be a signal of doom. If you fight dirty, using weak spots and insults or fight quickly because something about her irritates you so badly that you just feel like lashing out, it would indicate heavy resentment, and that's a definite clue that you need to leave.

5. Look at your spouse and describe what you see. Do you still envision that handsome man with the adorable nose and the sexy voice that you fell in love with? If you do then great, it's still there for you. If you look at him now and see a big, dumb ox with a pointy nose wearing a constant scowl, and when he talks, it reminds you of nails on a chalkboard, it's pretty safe to say that it's not there and possibly never will be again.

6. Find in her what you found so interesting and attractive in the beginning. Think of exactly how you felt when you were dating and try to discover if you still feel that way about her.