How to Teach a Child About Cheating

While many children cheat at one time or another, few may understand the consequences of their actions. Deterring a child from cheating involves more than teaching her right from wrong; it also means getting her to take responsibility for what may happen as a result.

Difficulty:

Easy

Instructions

1. Avoid rescuing your child if you discover her cheating. For example, if your child has cheated on a test at school, refrain from getting involved or insisting she be allowed to retake the test. Instead, use the opportunity to discuss ethics and teach your child that cheating comes with consequences, such as failing or being disqualified.

2. Discover why your child is cheating. Perhaps she is afraid of disappointing you if she doesn't do well on a test, or she doesn't really understand the material but is hesitant to speak up. Your child's reasons for cheating will provide insight to her behavior without excusing it.

3. Discuss with your child how she will make up for cheating. Aside from apologizing to both you and her teacher, your child should offer a way to amend her actions. Likewise, let your child know that cheating is unacceptable and that she has broken your trust. Establish clear consequences for any future cheating.

Tips & Warnings

• If your child is prone to excessive cheating, be sure to seek the help of a professional therapist or guidance counselor in order to get at the root of her actions. Often cheating is a way of coping for children who feel pressured to excel constantly or who cannot understand difficult assignments.