How to Stop In-Laws From Moving In
Visits with in-laws can be stressful for a couple and place unneeded tension on the marriage. Even more traumatic is when your in-laws decide that they want to move in with you and your spouse. Learn strategies to stop your in-laws from moving in and maintain marital bliss.
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Instructions
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Remain calm and resist the impulse to scream at the top of your lungs. Encourage them to discuss what issues have bought on this decision. Talk in private with your spouse before giving the in-laws an answer.
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Speak with your spouse. Sit down together and discuss the issue of your in-laws moving in to your home. Remind them of problems and difficulties you both currently have dealing with in-laws. Brainstorm about alternative ways to assist your in-laws instead of allowing them to move into your home.
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Lay out an agreement. To prevent problems you and your spouse need to come to an agreement to handle this situation with her in-laws. Consider making small compromises such as letting in-laws stay over on holidays and one weekend a month.
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Talk to other family members who may be prepared to take in your in-laws in temporarily. Look for local organizations that can assist with finding them a place to live or can address the issue that is convincing your in-laws that they need to live with you.
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Present a united front. Arrange a meeting with your in-laws. Your spouse as the in-laws blood relative should take the lead. Be honest and tell them that you love and value them in your lives. Discourage them from moving in and let them know living together could build resentment. Present them with the alternatives you found and the plan about providing your support.
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Tips & Warnings
To avoid feelings of resentment rules that you and your spouse decide on for dealing with his in-laws should also apply to your family.
Counseling should be considered when one partner wants the in-laws to move in and the other is against it.
Do not allow your in-laws to pressure you into agreeing on moving into your home. Be assertive and maintain that you and your spouse have to talk about it in private first.
Be prepared to handle resentment and anger from your in-laws and their other family members when they don't get their way.
