How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

Preparing for a wedding day can be one of the most exciting events that one does to commemorate a day that is to be cherished and remembered for a lifetime. There are so many important things to get accomplished before that special day. Often, the written "I do's" are left to someone else, such as the clergy who is aided with the traditional century old format of written wedding formality. Today's modern bride and groom still welcome a "sprinkling" of wedding tradition on their special day (so as not to upset Great Grandmothers) but in addition to tradition, couples are also adding a personalized touch to marriage by writing their own wedding vows.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

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   You don't have to be a creative writer to write what you feel in your heart. There is no limit on what to say in the ceremonious exchange of wedding vows. Before writing down words to be said during a wedding ceremony, think about your feelings. Think about the meaning of your life, your love for each other and the reason you are wanting to share eternity with one another.

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   Take time and write your thoughts down on paper. It does not have to be done in a day. Carry a little note pad around with you and when you think of something, write it down. If you don't feel you have a creative flair for words, read some love poems and stories of the heart, where you will be inspired to remember the reason that you are getting married.

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   Sit down with your spouse and prepare together. Coordinate what the two of you want to say. Don't leave your spouse in the dark about your vows. You don't want to end up with one partner reading a "book" and the other reciting 3 words. Plan together and talk to each other about what you intend to say, how long the vows will be and when in the ceremony you will exchange those vows.

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   Talk to other family members and ask them what marriage means to them. Listen to what they have to say and maybe incorporate it into your written vows. Play some of your favorite songs that you and your spouse enjoy together. Some of best wedding vows are derived from songs of the heart. Read poetry. There are some great written words found in poetry that capture the meaning of love.

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   If you have a world of emotions and feelings that you want to portray in your vows but just can't seem to make it all come together on paper, then the assistance of a creative writer will help. A creative writer will take your thoughts and feelings and eloquently write them down, making you feel more comfortable about the exchange of your love for one another in marriage.
   
   There is no "right" or "wrong" phrase of words to display in a marriage vow. If it feels right to the couple saying the words, then it is the right wedding vow, meaningful and something to remember for a lifetime.

Tips & Warnings

• Think about what you want to say
• Write it down
• Take your time
• Hire a creative writer if needed
• Your vows can be framed and will be a memory for the two of you forever