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Step 1
Sit down before you are married and talk about the expectations. This is a missing step in many marriages that lead to unwanted stress. Lay out what you want and need from him. Let him lay out what he needs and wants from you. Make a pact that you can alter these needs and wants as you grow and change.
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Step 2
Talk to your husband. Let him know that you want to switch jobs. Talk to him about how the present system is or is not working. Do whatever you need to do to butter him up before the talk. Fix him his favorite meal. Clean his clothes in his favorite fabric softener. Let him have his friends over for football night. Butter him up and then talk to him.
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Step 3
Take on some of his jobs. Many men think that their job is taking out the trash. Renegotiate the job assignments in the home. This might include the entire family. Make a chart with several jobs and each chooses a job. Let him pick the easy ones. At least he will get into a routine of doing housework.
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Step 4
Praise him. Sometimes men want to be babied, too. The praise and rewards a husband gets are very different though. Do his favorite thing for him. Go to his favorite place. Tell him how much you appreciate him and all the work he does for the family.
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Step 5
Release him to do it his way. He may have taken an extra 30 minutes to unload the dishwasher, but it's done, isn't it? He did it and you didn't have to. Ask him to do something and then release him to do it his way and in his time.
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Step 6
Encourage him. He has just come home from a long day at work as well. He needs just as much of a break and encouragement as you do. If he does the dishes, tell him he did a great job and do not nag him that he didn't do it your way.
