How to Reward a Child Without Spoiling
Sometimes it is hard for parents to remember the difference between rewards and bribes. Rewards are blessings for good behavior and brides are given to coax a desired behavior. Keeping this in mind when dealing with your child will help you both know the difference between a blessing and a source of spoiling.
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Instructions
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Set clear boundaries for your child and let him know ahead of time what is expected of him or her.
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Stay calm, firm and consistent when disciplining and setting boundaries.
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Remember that each child has different temperaments and developmental styles. Some children respond well to verbal praise while others respond better to rewards like stickers or extra time on the computer.
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Catch your child in the act of doing good.
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Praise good behavior by providing positive reinforcement. Showing extra attention and offering words of praise and affirmation are often the best kind of rewards.
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Offer rewards or incentives to be given after your child has completed an important task. Getting ice cream after helping a neighbor clean out their garage is a good example.
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Require your child to participate in the purchase and maintenance of a reward. For example, if you allow them to have a bike for completing extra chores, then help them learn decision making and monetary skills by aiding in the purchase of the bike. Then require them to keep the bike in good condition and in a safe place.
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Tips & Warnings
In most cases, good behavior is caught, not taught. You must lead by example in withholding a reward from yourself until you have done something to earn it.
Do not use bribes. Bribes are giving a child a treat in advance and hoping they will show good behavior.
Do not expect perfection. Your child is in a learning process and needs your help to know how to show gratitude for rewards and not act spoiled when they are given something new.
